I saw this article referenced by Robert Thiel and thought it worth looking up, myself. It’s an odd mixture of ingredients that I could spend a great deal of time discussing or just let you look for yourself. Given my “to do” list, today, I think I will do the latter: here’s a link to the New York Times article, “A Disconnect on Hooking Up” published March 1, 2007. (Note: I did not need a subscription to read the article, so hopefully you will not either!)
I will summarize what you’ll find there: Ms. Laura Sessions Stepp, a reporter for the Washington Post, has written a book titled, Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both. Nothing in her many comments in the article would lead you to believe that she is anything other than politically and culturally liberal — e.g., she seems to support the “right” to an abortion and she seems supportive of homosexuality. “In college, she worked to eradicate single-sex dorms,” the article reports. She very clearly seems to think of herself as a feminist and, in many ways, seems to have the credentials to prove it.
But it isn’t a brand of feminist that is being met with approval. Her book puts forward the somehow “alarming” argument that the culture of “hooking up” — careless and casual sex amongst people who may have only just met and who may never meet again — so horribly present in today’s crowd of high school and younger college students is a bad thing for girls. From the article:
“This culture of sexual aggression, [Ms. Sessions] said, often leaves young women physically and emotionally unsatisfied. It leads them to gamble with their health. And by never taking the time to get to know and care about one man, she said, young women may be rendering themselves incapable of forging stable, loving relationships.”
Her critics generally do not seem to question that the culture she describes is, indeed, a “norm” for the age groups under discussion. Again, from the article: “…while studies show that fewer teenagers are having sex, other studies of students at individual universities show that the hookup is the predominant way that students sexually interact.” (Makes you weep for these children to the point one has no more tears to shed, doesn’t it?)
Rather than comment any further, I will again refer you to the article, else I will be here all day. let me just add that Ms. Sessions seems far from prudish in her views on the matter, and I would gather that the reaction of some of her critics probably reveals more about their approach to life and what they might call “morality” than is does about the book.
The article mentions that “Strangely… traditional family values groups have not yet weighed in.” Well, let me weigh in: she has only described the tip of the iceberg concerning the damage being done to our children by the abhorrent legacy left to younger generations by the older generation’s “sexual pioneeers.”
God uses Paul to highlight sexual permiscuity as a sort of sin that is not only an affront to God, but one that is particularly damaging to the sinner, himself (or herself) (1 Corinthians 6:18). I do not deny what God reveals, in that sin does involve pleasure — what God calls sin’s “passing pleasures” (Heb. 11:25). If it didn’t “feel good,” resisting it wouldn’t be that big a deal, huh? But there is no such thing as a free lunch, and those “pleasures” are purchased at a high price — regardless of the deceptive fantasy that the modern media has crafted about “sexual freedom.”
Jesus prophesied that in the end times “because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold” (Matt. 24:12). I don’t want to say that He was specifically prophesying this particular cultural development, but on one level we definitely see this in play here. The “hookup” culture is one in which lawlessness — abandoning the law of God — does absolutely abound. And it is also one in which, as Ms. Sessions points out, the heart hardens like a rock… like a rock cool to the touch.
May God have mercy on this lost and deluded generation and on the faithless generation that preceded them and passed down to them the horrid foundation upon which they build.
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